The Sit Down Talk with Kier & Noémie Gaines
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The Sit Down Talk with Kier & Noémie Gaines
Getting Candid with My Daughter on Life + Love | Kier & Noémie
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Sometimes the most unexpected conversations are the ones that leave the biggest impact.
In this special episode, Kier sits down with our daughter Emery for her first-ever appearance on the podcast. What starts as a fun father-daughter moment turns into a sweet and meaningful conversation about identity, growth, love, and what it really means to feel seen and supported.
From navigating nerves and school struggles to reflecting on perseverance, therapy, and family connection—this episode is full of humor, heart, and tiny wisdoms that hit home in the most unexpected ways.
We’re talking about everything from YouTube milestones and bedtime routines to big dreams, bravery, and the power of simply showing up for one another—again and again.
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Meet 7-Year-Old Emery
Speaker 1Welcome back to the sit down talk podcast. My name is Kier yeah, you thought you were going to hear and I'm Noemi, but no, not this episode, because Noemi is not my special guest. My special guest is someone else. It is my seven year old daughter, emery, and in this episode we talk about love. We talk about life, and I think you are going to understand why I am so deeply in love with her. She's very intelligent, she's super articulate and she is a dope conversationalist. This is probably my favorite episode of the podcast that we ever posted. It was super impromptu, we just recorded it before bedtime, but Emery's a super special girl and you all are about to see why. So, with no further ado, this is Sit Down Talk Podcast. Let's go For y'all that don't know or who haven't been following the vlog. For the past six years we've been doing this. Um, this is my daughter, emery. She is my oldest daughter. We have episodes back in the day from when she was a little baby.
Speaker 1I know Bitty bitty, bitty baby yeah, now she's a big girl and today she's joining me on the podcast. This is her first time on the pod. Clap it up for emery for being on the pod hello everybody.
Speaker 2I'm so happy to be here you are so cute.
Speaker 1I can't. I'm gonna try to get it together, but you are so cute.
Personalities and Family Dynamics
Speaker 2Oh, I love you baby I love you you want to intro today's podcast so today's podcast, we are going to have a little conversation about our personalities yeah, our personalities, who we are, and really what makes us tick.
Speaker 1Every day, emory and I interact with each other in a lot of different levels. You remember that one time we were doing a puzzle. We recorded it but we never posted it. We were doing a puzzle and you told me. You remember what you told me. You said I don't feel like I'm your dad. You said you don't feel like you're my dad, you feel like you're more like my big brother, yeah you know, I think about that sometimes, yeah, yeah, I don't know why, because I feel the same.
Speaker 1I always thought Emery felt more like my little sister than my daughter, and that's kind of the relationship we have, until she don't do what I need her to do and then I turn into a dad.
Speaker 2You go clean your room this instant. I'm like this is your house, though.
Speaker 1Okay, yeah, man, this is yeah. Okay, yeah, man, this is yeah, let's go with that. You know what my mama used to be on me when I was little all the time while cleaning my room, and I hated I used to grumble, grumble, grumble. So emory has prepared a list of questions that she asked for me. Um, and I have a few questions that I have for her, but emory and I are much like her mother and I, and we have a tendency to go all off course a rabbit hole. So no guarantees that we're gonna get to everything we say we're gonna get to.
Speaker 2But what question you?
Speaker 1got for me. First off, I got a question for you on a scale of one to infinity billion google plus how much do you love your daddy?
Speaker 2One hundred one thousand million.
Speaker 1For real Mm-hmm. Not billion, just million. Billion, billion, not trillion, just billion.
Speaker 2Zillion.
Speaker 1Zillion, just zillion, not zillion Zillion.
Speaker 2Zillion, zillion, zillion, blah, blah, blah, blah million. That's what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1Well, first off, let me get an update on your life. How's school been?
Speaker 2Good.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Well.
Speaker 1Uh-oh, give it to me.
Speaker 2My specials and ELA. Those are the two. And PWS I don't like.
Speaker 1What's.
Speaker 2PWS. Pws is phonics.
Speaker 1You don't like phonics too much.
Speaker 2Mm-mm. Why? Because I know my letters. I know most of the sounds. I know a lot of stuff. My teachers are like here's the sound I-G-H. I already know that.
Speaker 1What's I-G-H? What sound does it make?
Speaker 2It's either it or I. I don't remember. I have so many studies.
Speaker 1No, it's I. I don't remember. I have so many stories. No, it's okay, I'll put you on the spot. My bad, but it's I. You got it Like night is I-G-H so yeah. Phonics is tough man. Phonics was tough for me from the first grade to the third. I struggle with it.
Speaker 2Also, I don't like handwriting or Monday Journal.
Speaker 1Oh, I hated handwriting and Monday Journal. Wait, are you me?
Speaker 2No, I don't know.
Emery on Perseverance and School
Speaker 1Sound like me, bruh, sound like me a little bit? Nah, those things used to be hard for me too. I think as you grow older, you grow to appreciate it a little bit more. Oh God, I'm dead lecturing, let's move on. So when you first told me that you were going to ask me some questions, I thought of some questions I wanted to ask you too, and I wrote them down, so I didn't forget.
Speaker 2How many are there?
Speaker 1I have 10 for you. We'll see how many we can get through. I love a girl with a list. Let's go.
Speaker 2What's your favorite thing about you? My favorite thing about myself is that when I first went to second grade, I always cried because I couldn't do anything.
Speaker 1But now I'm persevering a lot and so it's easier when you say you persevere what?
Speaker 2do you mean? You're getting through things Like, even though it's hard, you're getting through things For an example. Things for an example. I didn't do this if you didn't want to go on the school bus because it was very stinky. All right, you have to persevere through it and just get stuff done real tall.
Speaker 1It's hard for daddy to persevere sometimes, especially like in the last couple weeks. He just been tough for me, so it's it's hard for me to keep going through. I do it, but it's hard. You know how you be persevering. Like what do you tell yourself to help keep yourself going?
Speaker 2um, I can do this, or I go to a special office in like the mornings and the teacher who goes there we do like this little sheet that has like speech bubbles in it and she has really colorful pens, so we use that to write some things that will persevere me, and also, at the end she gives me lightsabers.
Speaker 1Oh, nice, I get the mints. She's like a look, she's like a counselor. Do you think that's helpful for you? Like to just be able to talk to somebody and they give you some tools? Yeah, I like that. I like you know daddy has somebody that I talk to. Like that too. That's really helpful. Man, perseverance is uh. I see it. When we're talking to your teachers today, that's one thing that we were talking about how good you're getting at just doing hard things, yeah, yeah, do you feel like you're getting better? Can you feel it?
Speaker 2yeah, next question is this awkward? No.
Speaker 1Okay, all right, you got a question you want to ask me.
Speaker 2Mm-hmm, what do you like about your life?
Growing Up on YouTube
Speaker 1What do I like about my life? Oh man, so many things. I like how you, mommy and Sydney, we're our own family and I didn't even know y'all like 15 years ago I didn't know none of y'all and we're our own family and it feels good to be around y'all. It feels good to go out and eat with y'all. It feels good when we got the fireplace on and it's snowing outside and we on YouTube dancing to Danny Go. I love that. I love what I do for a living, I love helping people and I love the life that I was able to give myself, because my life was very different when I was little. Have you ever told, like, have you ever had a chance to tell your life story before?
Speaker 2Here's your chance.
Speaker 1I want you to tell me from your perspective what's your life story from the beginning to right now.
Speaker 2My youtube life story is when I was very, very little, one years old, my dad thought of starting a youtube channel. So the next year we started a youtube channel. So I was very young and go check that out. And so we, um, we started a youtube channel and then, like a couple years later, daddy brought me a night bed and then I started watching like youtube videos and then I never thought we had like a youtube channel. I thought daddy was like filming around with a camera with random stuff, I'm like, and so when I got older I started to understand that the camera wasn't just an ordinary camera, it was a vlogging camera.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Just like the ones I watch in the video.
Speaker 1You put two and two together. Yeah, you figured it out.
Speaker 2And then I figured it out. So I watched videos of people getting a play button and I've been wanting a play button for like three years now. So I asked daddy if we could get a play button, because we got 100 000 subscribers. But I didn't understand. We have to fill out the form so shout out to the play button.
Speaker 1We have a play button for 100 000 subscribers. Um, you want to hold it up? She's really proud of it and yeah. So we watched a lot of creators be like oh my god, you guys, this play button came in the mail. I had no idea. No, you have to apply for it. Like it's not a surprise that you get a play button. You know very well it's coming. They give you a tracking number. You have to fill out an entire form. It's a process that you get a play button. You know very well it's coming. They give you a tracking number. You have to fill out an entire form. It's a process, but we got a play button for $100,000. So thank y'all for that and Boo Boo is very proud of that. Dang, that's significant in your life. You know what I think about it sometimes. What is it like growing up as a kid? Who's on YouTube? Who's on?
Speaker 2YouTube. And just to let you know, it's not heavy. It's made out of plastic, or what.
Speaker 1No shade.
Speaker 2It's a little mirror right there.
Speaker 1Yeah, the mirror's probably my favorite part, but we are very proud of our little play button, our plastic play button. I'll tell you what. When Daddy started all this, I had no idea that 100,000 people would ever be a part of it.
Speaker 2At the beginning I thought like oh, we'll never get 100,000 subscribers. And then here we are.
The Day Emery Was Born
Speaker 1Do you think that, since you are somebody whose face people see a lot, do you feel that, like when we go out in public, do people already know you? Do people introduce themselves to you? What happens?
Speaker 2People know me from straight away. They look at me and look back and they're like, oh my God, it's kind of annoying.
Speaker 1Next, question hey, I mean, you definitely got the right to feel that way. Do you feel like anything good comes of that when people know who you are? Have you ever had any positive experiences?
Speaker 2Only once. I mean a couple times. Tell me what happened. So like I thought I was super famous, the most famous person in the world, oh, somebody thought you were the most famous person in the world.
Speaker 1I thought myself was in the world.
Speaker 2Oh, somebody thought you were the most famous person in the world I thought myself was in the world.
Speaker 1Oh, you thought you were the most famous person in the world. Yeah, do kids ever recognize you from social media? I don't think kids would ever walk up. Yeah, because kids don't watch my content.
Speaker 2And so I forgot who it was. But once someone saw me, I forgot who it was. But once someone saw me and I thought they would just call everybody and come see me. But that didn't happen, of course they didn't, and I thought that was the end of my life. But it wasn't.
Speaker 1What.
Speaker 2You thought it was going to be the end of your life. I thought it would be very sad, but I noticed that. Well, I watched a YouTube video of the Gunners World Record Mm-hmm, and someone Did the most subscribers, so of course that didn't happen.
Speaker 1And you thought you were going to get the Guinness World Record for the most subscribers. I don't think I want that many people following me. That's a lot of people. That's a lot of people. 100,000 is a lot of people.
Speaker 2Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1But I think if you get like a Mr Beast or like an AS4Ally, they have like a million subscribers.
Speaker 2They got the gold play button. Now they have like Ten hundred million subscribers.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's pretty cool, you okay? Mmhmm, are you nervous? Yeah, you wanna pause, or Okay. Okay, it's okay, it's okay if you feel nervous. I just, uh, did a temperature check on Emerory and she was like I'm feeling a little bit nervous and I'm like, yeah, I be feeling nervous too. I asked if she wanted to stop, but she wants to keep going. You want to put the legos together? So we got this little lego set we're gonna put together. So if y'all hear stuff in the background, that's just us.
Speaker 1It's only one pack that's the last one oh, it's the last flower in the set, so for the audio listeners Emory, has she got a Valentine's Day gift that includes this Lego set? There's three beautiful flowers. The other two is just right off. Camera looks like it's falling apart a little bit. You might have to put it back together. These beautiful flowers. This is so cool For y'all at home.
Speaker 2I'm showing the camera.
Speaker 1You put one of these home base looking joints on top of one of these square looking blikies.
Speaker 2Wait.
Speaker 1Is that the right one? You get this.
Speaker 2Let's put this in the middle, and then put it like, put it like oh, it's shaped like a house a little bit.
Speaker 1All right, can I ask you the same question that you asked me what's your favorite thing about your life? Or what do you love most about your life? How about that?
Speaker 2what I love most about my life is you baby what? You, my family and friends.
Speaker 1Aw yeah, you have some great friends, man. What do you like about your family and friends? What about it makes your life feel worthwhile?
Speaker 2They care for me and they're very kind to me, yeah.
Speaker 1It's because we love you so much, babe. You're like everybody's baby, like when you were born, everybody was so excited. It felt like mommy was pregnant forever. Everyone was so excited. Then you came and you were this little fat, gummy ball of happiness.
Speaker 2Little fat gummy ball of happiness.
Speaker 1Yeah, you didn't have no teeth man, you were just all guns. Did I ever tell you about the day that you were born?
Speaker 2Nope, oh man, that can be one of our questions. You want me ever tell you about the day that you were born?
Speaker 1nope, oh man, that can be one of our questions you want me to tell you about the day that you were born. Oh man, me and mommy were supposed to go to work that day and you were giving mommy these things called braxton hicks contractions for the longest time, and I don't know what they feel like, but the way mommy reacted, it's like being punched in your stomach by a 200-foot man. The contractions were just crazy. And we were supposed to go to work and they hooked mommy up to this machine and they walked in the room and they said yep, you're not going to work today, you're having a baby. And it took you hours and you came. And then you try to come into the world, butt first, butt first, really yeah. And then you came. And then you try to come into the world, but first, but first, really yeah, you really try to come out.
Speaker 2You know baby's supposed to be born head first, nah you was trying to be butt first so they had to turn you around how this thing called a peanut ball.
Speaker 1They put mommy's legs on this ball that looked like a peanut and it flips the baby around. I don't know how it works, but that's what they did. And then they said are you ready? You ready to catch this baby? I said no. They said you about to. I said no. They said here it comes. All right, let's do it. They're like push and then look, you will come out, your hair to come out, and then, as soon as mommy stopped pushing your, you can go right back in. Then eventually they said push, and then they snatched you up out of there.
Speaker 2That probably hurt.
Speaker 1It was the craziest thing I've ever seen in my life. Were you really scared I wasn't scared, I was just fascinated. I've never seen a person come out of a person before. It is the wildest experience of all time. And then I saw it twice, because the same doctor that delivered you delivered Sidney.
Speaker 2Oh my god, yup.
Speaker 1Good times, man, good times.
Speaker 2That was the world's craziest day, because you got fired because you didn't go to work.
Speaker 1Nah, I didn't get fired, I kept my job.
Speaker 2What was your job? I worked with students that had disabilities in DC. I want to be a teacher and a doctor. Word.
Speaker 1Yeah, you could be both of those, as long as you're happy and a babysitter. And a babysitter. You think that's too much that sounds like a lot, but you can do them all, though. You can do them all at different points in your life if you want to. That's the advantage of being your age man you got the whole world in front of you yo.
Speaker 2You can really do whatever you want. I can do this, I can do that, I can do this.
Speaker 1You really can. It's limitless.
Speaker 2Really.
Speaker 1Yeah, absolutely. You just got to make sure you make good decisions. That's the thing about being a grown-up, so you can do whatever you want, but you got to make good decisions. You finished it y'all. Look at that.
Speaker 2And this one.
Speaker 1Nice little Lego flower.
Speaker 2A little.
Speaker 1It smells like cocoa butter. This price is your hands.
Speaker 2Yes, I put a thousandand Wishes. Cocoa Butter, it's called A.
Speaker 1Thousand Wishes. What's that? The brand name?
Speaker 2From Bath and Body Works.
Speaker 1Shout out to Bath and Body Works. I love you, man.
Speaker 2I love you mon.
Speaker 1I love you, mon. What's your favorite place we ever visited?
Daddy-Daughter Noodle Dates
Speaker 2Probably Hawaii. Hawaii was really good and Turks and Caicos Turks Hawaii, hawaii was really good and Turks and Caicos. Turks and Caicos was really good, but the only thing I didn't like about Hawaii was the airport.
Speaker 1You didn't like the airport.
Speaker 2Because the big Maui dolls.
Speaker 1Oh yeah, the big Maui dolls. It scared you. It's creepy it was. They just had these random Maui dolls from moana just all around the airport. Hawaii is very far away from dc. I don't geographically, you don't you look at a map? You're like, oh, hawaii is under california, like it's off the coast. No man, it's a very long way. It's a very long flight. It's like 10 hours, 11 hours yeah, it's so long.
Speaker 2You have to take two flights.
Speaker 1That's right.
Speaker 2One is like three hours.
Speaker 1Yeah, three hours to Dallas from here and then from Dallas to Hawaii is like eight seven.
Speaker 2It's either. Yeah, I think it's eight and we got there like around midnight.
Speaker 1Yeah, man, you sleep overnight. The time coming back from Hawaii, from Hawaii to DC, you lose track. A whole day and a half is just gone. It's a ridiculous journey.
Speaker 2If you go at 1 am, you'll be there at something pm Not the afternoon. You understand me.
Speaker 1I ain't about to do that math. You took a nap on the couch earlier. That was wonderful. We got to do that more often. You getting big now, man, yeah, man, do you feel me picking up and carrying you when you fall asleep on the couch? Can you feel that? Sometimes, I should be hoping you don't wake up, because I need you to stay asleep.
Speaker 2One time I fake sleep.
Speaker 1What do you mean?
Speaker 2I fake sleep, so you could carry me.
Speaker 1Because you didn't find walking up the steps. Yep.
Speaker 2How dare you? And then, once I got in my bed, I immediately woke up. I'm like can I have some water?
Speaker 1I remember that day, man. Let me tell you what this little one does. So one day, it's like 3 am, she walks into my room and she does this thing.
Speaker 2She pokes me and I wake up and she's like daddy, can I have some water?
Speaker 1and I look at the clock and it's 3 30 am and I was like, are you serious? She's like like, yeah, I need some water, daddy. So I stumble out of bed and then she goes walking in my room like she's going to get in my bed. I said uh-uh, hey, back in your bed. And then I went and got this girl some water at 3.30.
Speaker 2As much as I hate being woken up. You know how much I got to love you to do that. That's funny. And then, when I got up, I'm in my room pretending to be sleeping, yeah you was going to have to sleep in your room that night.
Speaker 1I know you like to jump in Mommy and Daddy's bed. You're just so tall. Now, man, you take up so much space.
Speaker 2We have two more questions. Okay, that are the same.
Speaker 1All right, so what is your favorite food?
Speaker 2Gotta more questions okay that are the same.
Speaker 1All right. So what is your favorite food? Gotta be noodles. What's your favorite noodles? Man, because we've been. We've been eating some pretty good noodles and some pretty good spots. That's our thing when we go on dates, we're going noodle dates it has to be pho yeah, pho.
Speaker 1what do you think is the besto? Is it that spot we go to with the weird shaped parking lot? Do you think it was a spot in Philly? You didn't like the ramen in New York City, did you? Uh-uh, yeah, you didn't like that too much. Which pho spot is your favorite?
Speaker 2It has to be the one at church or the one in Philly.
Speaker 1Yeah, we do. We found the pho spot by our church and, um, oh, it's so good. They make you wait forever for the food though. Yeah, yeah, the food takes forever to come, but it's once we um had to wait like 30 20 minutes for food and that's one of the advantages of pho. For y'all that don't know, pho is is a Vietnamese noodle dish and it's so good. It has broth, it has meat in it, it's rice noodles. It's amazing.
Speaker 2Donuts.
Speaker 1And sometimes they have these donuts. They're not sweet, but they just call them donuts like fried dough.
Speaker 2They're not like circle shaped, they're like cylinder. I was about to say they're like cylindrical, if you look from like this side, then it's like a lot long like that it looks like one of them shower loofahs and you dip it in and you dip it in the broth? If you don't, then it's just really crunchy. But if you dip it in, whatever you put it in it, that's what it tastes like, just right yeah, it is like tofu whenever god you right.
Speaker 1So she and I have been making a tradition of spending sundays together, just me and her. And we'll go and we get some pho. We'll go to church. We'll walk around the city for a little bit, enjoy some of the sights eat the flaming hot.
Speaker 1Yeah, we'll go to the convenience store, We'll get a snack and then we'll just walk around and eat snacks and make our way back home slowly. And the thing I love about it is those Sundays give me and you an opportunity to kind of kick it just the two of us. Man, it's getting late. You want to close this out?
Speaker 2Yes, closing out.
Closing Thoughts and Farewell
Speaker 1Thank y'all for tuning in. This is a special little podcast with me and emory just a little something special. Uh, make sure you hit the notification button so that you can know of all of our posts as soon as they post. Also, make sure you hit the subscribe button, because that's how we know you family for real right here?
Speaker 1right here or down here, I don't know and, yeah, we don't know where the subscribe button is, but you can look for it and find it somewhere on there. And if you are one of the audio listeners, make sure that you follow us on Spotify, apple Music or wherever you get your podcast and leave a little comment for us. You know, I'm not saying put five stars, but if you do, we will not be mad. My name is Kier and this is Emery. Emery, jimmery, skimmery, lemery, hemery, demery Doo, and we out